Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Sipping tea with the calm, cool, and collected Sarah Jenks
Whether you’re a bride-to-be, eagerly awaiting your soulmate, or trying to rekindle the passion in your marriage, the way we feel about our bodies has a HUGE effect on our lives. Sarah's approach to overall health and wellness goes well beyond the food we eat or how many days a week we hit the gym. It's about living life to the fullest & really learning to love ourselves inside & out.
As we chatted about Sarah's upcoming wedding taking place in the backyard of her family home & her ever-so-romantic proposal story - It's easy to understand Sarah's success, sense her calm & be inspired.
In the midst of our fabulous conversation I asked Sarah to share a bit of her knowledge & experience with you...
SJ: Being an entrepreneur & being a bride at the same time is really hard. From a bride’s perspective - I can see how important it is for people to get help. I’m lucky that my mother is really on top of things, but if you don’t have a really supportive mom you absolutely, absolutely, need a wedding planner.
Being a bride yourself & working with other brides how do you find balance?
SJ: What’s great about being a bride & working with engaged women at the same time is that we’re really going through it together. I think it’s nice for them to see someone who’s going through the process who is actually sane, where they feel like, 'I have to lose so much weight, I’m really overwhelmed, I’m really stressed, & I don’t know how to deal with this.' A lot of times brides think that is the norm, that it's okay to be crazy. I think it's nice for them to see me be calm & collected about the whole thing & not crazy. It shows them that they don’t have to be that way & that they don’t have worry about to losing 30 pounds to look perfect. I learn so much from them; we talk about different relationship stuff, & we talk a lot about wedding planning. When you choose to be in human services teaching becomes your greatest teacher it's really how I learn so much about myself & my life. It will be really nice when I am on the other side of marriage, I look forward to being able to share that perspective as well.
What is your advice to brides when it comes to health & wellness?
SJ: I think it’s so important for women not to focus on how they want to look, but on how they want to feel. So many women think that the only way to feel a certain way is to lose 10 to 20 pounds & it’s just not true. If you only focus on losing 15 pounds because you imagine that it is going to make you feel more confident, sexier, more in love with your fiancé the reality is that what you really want, that feeling is never going to happen. So the best thing to do is think about what the emotional goal of losing weight is & then to do things to try & reach the emotional goal. Think of what you can do for your body confidence on a daily basis, something like going to a dance class, getting back massages, stepping out of your comfort zone - That has nothing to do with cutting down to only carrots & salad every day. What’s so great is that when we are building confidence & feeling happy & comfortable in our bodies, our bodies will naturally lose weight without us needing to hit the gym or starve ourselves. I think that is really the key & to not weigh yourself. The number on the scale has nothing to do with how you look in your wedding dress. If you're really concerned with if you are losing weight or not – pick a pair of jeans you can try on every other week, but the number on the scale isn’t going to be accurate or healthy for you – It’s just a way of telling yourself you suck everyday. Toss the scale.
For more insight by Sarah Jenks or to learn about her services visit, TheBreathTakingBride.com